Forgiveness vs Moving On

Sometimes people confuse forgiveness with moving on. Forgiveness comes with acceptance; accepting that you may never get that money back, that you may never get an apology or never get someone to even admit that they were wrong. Forgiveness sometimes means taking a loss and being okay with it so you can move forward freely and progressively.

When you just move on, you simply get past the situation, but you drag it along with you, shackled to your ankles. That progression, if there is any, is labored, not free. At any time, that situation could arise in conversation or in thought and it will take you right back to the place you were emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Forgiveness is about letting shit go. LET IT GO.

You haven't forgiven if everything you have to say about a person or situation is followed by a "but..."

You haven't forgiven if you're constantly bringing up their repeated history.

You haven't forgiven if you can't be family until you get your money back.

That said, forgiving people their transgressions does not mean welcoming them back into your space. It is perfectly acceptable to forgive and walk away. Forgiveness does not mean putting yourself back in the position of being used, played and taken advantage of and if you happen to be, you can't put that on anybody but you, especially since you claim to know what this person is about. Mature people who have had enough should feel absolutely fine saying, "Look, I forgive you. We family; I love you... but there is no place in my life for people who do what you continue to do. You need to go find yourself, but I do wish you the best."

In that order.